Day 2 on ‘Authenticity as Flow’ of the “Flow” Chapter
From “Remembering” Series
[Listen to the audio with guided alignment at the end]
On the previous post, we shed some light on the different perspectives of ‘Flow’ in Stoic philosophy, Taoism philosophy and a psychology term. Flow is the quality and the essence of life where it serves as the middle path between rigidity and spontaneity. It teaches us to get what we want, also ‘trust the river’ of life events by detaching from outcome.
Here, we look at being authentic as flow in life.
Authenticity as Flow
Don’t dare to be different, dare to be yourself.Laura Baker
What is authenticity?
Some said, it is being yourself regardless of what others says.
Some said, it is when we remove our masks and be real by showing who we really are.
Some said, it is the courage to be yourself by saying and doing the things you actually believe.
The Origin of the Word
Authentic originates from ancient Greek word “authentikos”, which resembles both in form and in meaning the contemporary word “authentic”: original, genuine, principal.
Being authentic requires us to know who we are, so how to be authentic is when we know who are are? See, here is the thing, we are authentic by nature, so what we can do is stop being inauthentic.
Why are we being inauthentic? It all boils down to love and to be love.
It is in our blood with a sense of belongingness to our clan since long times. There is a need to fit in so we are accepted and loved by others. Like how a child would do what to please his or her parents because of the need to be loved. As we grew up, there are a certain patterns we formed with this need, either consciously or unconsciously knowing.
First, be aware of your pattern.
Some of the patterns we have as being inauthentic would be putting an act as someone you are not, compromising what you feel is right, feeling weird in your own skin, following those around you, agreeing with what others say when you don’t feel so or generally feeling like you are not being yourself.
Exploring conscious ways to flow authentically in life:
A man once told The Buddha, “I want happiness.” The Buddha replied, “First remove ‘I’, that’s ego. Then remove ‘WANT’, that’s desire. And now all you’re left with is HAPPINESS”.
Whatever we are experiencing, the pleasant or the unpleasant, if we surrendering to it, meaning we experiencing it fully, giving our full attention without struggling against it or trying to make something out of it. As we are let go of controlling the outcome, being open to what is, when we realize that it is temporary, we create inner space for something new rather than hold on to the same pattern.
“I surrender, I let go.
I surrender to the higher being.
I surrender to my truth.
I surrender my fear.
I surrender my guilt.
I surrender to harmony.
I am at ease and complete.”‘Surrender’ song by Alexia Chellun
When fear arises, choose to go with it anyway, as fear is here to help us feel safe. It can be a useful fear when it comes, it gives us energy to be with it, to use it for your desired outcome.
Next time, when fear arises to stop you from doing things, experiment this. Have the courage to do it anyway, as an opportunity to reprogram yourself. Allow yourself to feel it and remind yourself that you are safe and it didn’t happen. Thus, the stress hormones in the body are more likely to be less reactive in response to fear. Let’s do this a few times and write it a journal to keep tracking the results. This is way to practice a new way of being.
Deep down you know what you want
As we listen to our inner voice and needs, we can choose to take care of ourselves first. When there is anxiety or any kind of emotions, notice it and allow ourselves to be with it. Recognize that emotions are energy, which can be transformed, if only we allow ourselves to feel it fully. Also, allowing ourselves to radiate our light from within, to be ourselves.
I’m Allowing Me to be Me.
I’m Allowing Me to be Free.
I’m allowing my power.
I’m allowing well being.
I’m allowing my path to light up before me.
I’m allowing everything to just be as it comes to me.
I’m shining brightly.
I’m allowing, easily allowing all my dreams to be
In the right timing .
Me to be Me.
Me to be Free.
I’m allowing my worth.
I’m allowing my brilliance.
I’m allowing my path to unfold now before me.‘Allow’ Song by Alexia Chellun
Feel ~ Kiss ~ Flow ~ your emotions when it arises and be with it until the full cycle completes.
Feel ~ Feel the feeling—any feeling—as a sensation in the body…
Kiss ~ Touch the sensation with your breath,
as if you would kiss it with the breath from the inside…
Flow ~ Now the feeling has space to flow.
When feelings are allowed to flow, they change very quickly.
*This is one of the yogini practice I learned from Chameli Ardagh’s Awakening Women. Read more on the self care collective resources.
“When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret.”Shannon L. Alder
When you find yourself not being authentic, for example, when your feelings and actions are not align, yet wondering should you follow the majority, take a pause. When you allow yourself to express in a healthy way, you show how much you value your own voice and show others your preferences and needs.
Express emotions by writing down anything you feel bad about, anything you judged yourself for, or anything you judged yourself fo, or any difficult experience that caused you pain. Write some kind comfort words to self, letting you know you care about yourself with a gentle reassuring note.
When you feel pain, express your pain. Learn how to address your pain when you have been deeply hurt by someone you love. Then let the pain go, whether the person apologizes or not. Forgiveness is for you to free yourself from holding on unnecessary pain.
As we show appreciation and kindness ourself, we are opening to receive more of what we appreciate because gratitude attracts more things to be grateful for.
I am grateful
I am free
I am grateful for the love that surrounds me
I am grateful for health
I am grateful for wealth
Thank you‘I am Grateful’ song by Alexia Chellun
Feeling gratitude with a desired event in mind before it occurs.
Express gratitude to others because “feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.”
Listen to the playlist of Alexia Chellun’s songs on Surrender, Allow, Grateful, Healing, The Power of Now etc:
Bottom line, authenticity is not the presence of something, but the absence of everything that is not authentic. In between surrender and engagement, may you flow in life with authenticity, just…
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”Oscar Wilde