Day 10 on ‘Emotions: OSHO Perspectives’ of The ‘Emotions’ Chapter
From ‘Remembering’ Series
[Listen to the audio with guided alignment at the end]
Explore Different Perceptions on Emotions From a Mystic
On this closing post on ‘Emotions’ chapter, I would love to dedicate this post to share OSHO’s insights and perspectives from his book: ‘Emotions’.
Relax.. give some time to sink in, watch and come back to it again. You might find new levels of understandings.. As OSHO described, may this be the lamp you can use to light the hidden corners of your own, hidden reality.
Note that the below sharing is based on OSHO’s book – Emotions
Emotion comes and goes
“You are angry, but you cannot remain angry forever.
Even the angriest man laughs sometimes, has to.
It cannot become a permanent state of affairs,
Even the saddest man smiles;
and even the man who laughs continuously
sometimes cries and weeps and tears come to his eyes.”
“If you are angry, then be angry
and don’t judge that it is good or bad.”
What’s the difference between positive and negative emotion?
When we are aware of a certain emotion, with this awareness, the emotion dissolves, then it is negative. When we are aware of a certain emotion, we become the emotion, it spreads and becomes one with our being, then it is positive. Osho described the negative emotions which do not remain in the awareness is our inner realisations where these emotions will transform to positive.
Simply Remain Authentic
When we do not know what is good or bad, simply be authentic, then it will allow us to have a glimpse of the real. Only the real can know the real, the authentic can know the authentic that surrounds you.
When we repressed humanity, not allowing individuals to be angry sometimes, then everyone keeps gathering one’s anger and everyone is full of poison which will explode in a world war.
What is repression?
When we do things we never wanted to do, when we live a live we are not meant to live. Thus, repression is a slow suicide and slow poisoning.
“Expression is life; repression is suicide.”
When we express anger on somebody else
When we throw anger to someone else, another chain might be created, especially someone is unconscious, one might throw more anger on us and there goes the chain.
We can express emotions, but not publicly, it has to be private otherwise there is no end. Go run around the house or sit under the tree to observe it, but don’t force it inside.
Understand reaction and response
Reaction is when we act depending on others, while response is not depending on others. Response is the pause and gap before reaction happens. When someone insults us, we can meditate or start question ourselves, because if the person is right, we can thank them. If they are wrong, there is no need to react with anger too.
Beware of the mind game of being silent
Osho pointed how some religions or saints promote the stillness of the mind as a form of repression. When we sit silently, try to control the thoughts and not allowing emotions to flow, it will become our habit. This is where nothing will change but appear as transformation has been done.
Why people are angry?
Because we suppressed with so much anger.
When we see anger in others, dig within ourselves, see what we find it there. When we see too much ego in others, go inside and we will find ego sitting there. Because were each other’s projections.
If you really want to know what anger is,
go into it, meditate over it, taste it in many ways,
allow it to happen inside you,
be surrounded by it, be clouded by it,
feel all the pang and the pain
and the hurt of it,
and the poison, and how it brings you low,
how it creates a dark valley for your being,
how you fall into hell through it,
how it is a downward flow.
Feel it, know it.
And that understanding will
start a transformation in you.
To know truth is to be transformed.
Truth liberates – but it must be your own.
[PS: I love how this is similar as Linda Star Wolf’s approach on anger, which is to allow ourselves to feel the pain and hurt, then it will transform us. I tried it myself and it has been a cleansing transformation so far!]
Your anger is true to you, so find the source of this anger, go deeper within, until the center, a moment comes, when there is no anger. Anger comes from the ego, an identity, when it feels hurt, the anger is there.
if you condemn a natural phenomenon
it becomes poisonous,
it destroys you, it becomes
destructive and suicidal.
If you transform it, it becomes divine.
But transformation is needed.”
Why do people get angry at you?
“They are not angry at you, they are really afraid of you. And to hide the fear they have to project the anger. Anger is always to hide fear. People use all kinds of strategies. There are people who will laugh just so that they can stop their tears. In laughing you will forget, they will forget… and the tears can remain hidden. In anger, their fear remains hidden.”
When one is full of fear, one becomes angry immediately. When one does not become angry then we will see this person’s fear. Osho described anger as a cover up. When one is angry, one is trying to make us afraid, then we wouldn’t know the fear. One might not know what is he or her afraid of, just making the others afraid, one is at ease with nothing to be afraid of.
So, anger is an act of self deception, which has nothing to do with you.
Anger shows fear
Interesting perspectives on how fear is always behind anger. Anger created a curtain around us which we can hide behind.
Sadness is passive anger; anger is active sadness
For Osho, sadness and anger is the opposite polarity which hold 50-50 equal energies so they can cancel each other.
It is easier to cry but more difficult to be angry because we are more tune in with passive, so it is hared for a sad person to be angry. If we can make a sad person angry, his sadness will disappear instantly. While it is harder for angry people to feel sad, when we can make an angry person sad, one’s anger will disappear instantly.
When one can express these 2 emotions, anger and sadness swiftly, one can choose to watch it, then you go beyond both. But first, you have to move easily between these 2 emotions.
Nothing goes as deep as sadness
Sadness brings us to the innermost core where it can reveal things we have never known before. Like how the day and darkness are both divine. Both happiness and sadness are divine too.
The issue is when we want to get rid of sadness, misery, anger, or hopelessness. They are the blessings in disguised. When we escape from them, another problem will arise, so accept them, integrate and grow.
There is nothing right and nothing wrong
There is no need for anyone to suffer, the key is – just be aware.
What is good and what is bad?
So one thing to remember –
for any seeker, a real seeker,
this is a basic thing to be understood:
remain with your facts,
try to know them.
Do not allow the society
to force its ideology on you.
Do not look at yourself
through others’ eyes.
You have eyes; you are not blind.
And you have the facts
of your inner life.
Use your eyes!
Jealousy means living in comparison, perceiving someone is better than us or above us. That hurts, thus, we keep fighting and it never seems to end. Start watching is without judgment. When we see through it, you see exactly what it is. When we drop jealousy, as it disappears, love remains.
“Life cannot be possessed.
You cannot have it in your fist.
If you want to have it,
you have to keep your hands open.”
Instead of fighting with darkness, simply light up the candle. That’s what love is. Once love flows, jealousy and possessions simply disappear. Delight in love more!
The one and only basic fear is the fear of losing yourself. Believing you have something to lose.
Those people who are afraid of themselves are those who don’t have themselves. Those who have themselves are not afraid.
Interestingly Osho shared how people are afraid of life. Death is rare as it happens once in a while, whereas life is everyday. Meaning we are afraid of the unknown (risk & adventures) and the mind needs rational explanation to cling to- one knows the ordinary common fear of old age and illness.
Fear is normal and essential for survival. Fear is intelligence. But fear can become abnormal and pathological.
The courage to go into the unknown
The difference between a coward and the courageous person is that the coward listens to the fear and follows them, the courageous person puts them aside and goes ahead, in spite of all the fears.
Osho talked about how we have exaggerated our fears. When we look at them, it will start to become smaller. Because we have never really look at them, we have been escaping from them, thus creating protections layers from them. With a little more awareness, catch and hold, look at it minutely like how the scientist would look at a thing. Then, you will be surprised to see how it starts to melt like an ice flake. By the time you realised, it is gone.
“When fear is accepted, it becomes freedom.”
When fear is denied or rejected, it becomes guilt. All we need is just awareness. Watch it, with no judgment.
So, ‘understand’ is the most important word to remember. If you can understand anger, immediately you will be showered with compassion.
PS: Osho shared some practical exercises working with different emotions at the end, kindly read the book for details.
I am grateful to review and share this piece of work by Osho plus the sharing of others in the previous 9 posts on exploring emotions. Thank you for being here as we close the chapter of Emotion.